A client of mine religiously listens to the recordings of our conversations in order to milk as much value out of them as he can. So during our calls he’ll often say “let me put my thinking on loudspeaker” so he can record his thoughts for the future.
Putting our thoughts on loudspeaker in general is a powerful practice, at least when in the presence of a committed listener who’s got our back and is listening cleanly.
Our fears and our insecurities, our mistakes and our problems, our regrets and our judgments. We often keep these silently to ourselves.
(This is also true of our goals, dreams, and visions.)
Meeting with a different client recently, he shared about his life and his challenges. He said that he faced a problem in his business earlier this year that was stressful. He then talked about other things.
We could’ve left his stressful work issue at that. Of course life and work is stressful at times!
Yet there was more within him that could be expressed about it.
“Stress doesn’t come from our circumstances,” I said, “it comes from within us. What was stressful about business at the time?”
In other words, I asked him to put on loudspeaker all his thinking about that stressful experience.
Mostly we stop listening at the surface! For him, it was enough that he felt stressed. Even as a trained listener, I could’ve easily stepped over and bought into the simple comment about being stressed like it’s a normal, everyday thing, and pretend to both of us that I knew exactly what he was talking about.
But we don’t know what people are talking about unless we ask! We don’t even know about our own experience without inquiring beneath the surface.
The surface is just the surface. Getting on loudspeaker helps the underlying feelings, reasons, and turbulence get expressed.
The outcome for this client was transformational.
He got in touch with feelings of disappointment, defeat, and resignation that he didn’t even know were at play. Tears flowed unexpectedly.
Our body is constantly speaking to us. So is our heart. So is Spirit. Mostly, we ignore them and prioritize what our conscious mind is thinking - that automatic, conditioned, incessant, and not-very-creative voice.
But even those conscious thoughts we don’t really hear. Instead, we follow them unquestioningly into a world of illusion that takes us farther from the truth about ourselves, others, and the world.
Putting ourselves on loudspeaker doesn’t mean we air our issues out there for everyone. It doesn’t mean we make our problems someone else’s problem too. It also doesn’t mean we react from challenging emotions.
Putting ourselves on loudspeaker is best done with someone committed to listening to us cleanly and without judgment. Being on loudspeaker is best done in a container where we’re loved unconditionally, and all parts of us have room to be.
Being on loudspeaker doesn’t mean we need someone to agree with us. In fact, the loudspeaker process goes much better if our listener doesn’t think they know anything about what we’re speaking.
If we’re not in such a safe container, what comes out is going to be filtered, modified, manipulated, or modulated in some way either by us ourselves or in the mind of the listener.
It’s hard to get complete and clear in a sloppy space of listening.
When we actually do have the profound space to get complete and clear, a new realm of possibility opens up for us.
My client, by getting his experience on loudspeaker and being invited down a path of powerful clearing in conversation with me, was able to get complete with the challenging experience in his business and create a whole new space of inspiration, integrity, and action to move forward once more.
In a few weeks I’ll be offering an online workshop to get complete - with this year or with a particular area of life - and then create yourself newly in this area from inspiration and integrity. I hope to see you there.
Much Love. ❤️
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